For a few moments today, I was feeling grumpy and worrisome. My brain was focused away from thinking about and putting energy into the things that I actually want to feel and experience. Yeah, it happens. Specific things happened, like plumbing things, and money things, and my world is busy and how will I manage all of the things things happened.
My thoughts started to spin in directions that in the past would put me into an unpleasant state. I recognized that unpleasant wasn't something that I was ready or willing to feel, because my life in general is pretty astonishing right now. Actually, between you and me and the person peeking over your shoulder, my life is fucking amazing right now. Unpleasant was just not an option.
So, I decided instead that I would take a walk and visualize what I really want for my life and reward myself with a tasty beverage. While I was out there, I met the neighbor that's driving my vision board car, the Range Rover Evoque, the exact color and everything. We got to chatting about how delightful that car is to drive and how it gets surprisingly good mileage for a crossover. Then I turned the corner of the block and I bumped into a neighborhood friend that I've been wanting to catch up with for months now and during our conversation I discovered that she has an opportunity for me. This whole 20 minute excursions was a fun reminder of the ways I'm rewarded when I decide to change my mindset and focus and decide to follow it up with action.
If you’re curious what I did to change my mindset while I was walking to get a pumpkin spiced chai, I used a simple process. I asked myself 3 questions and I visualized and embodied the answers. I've been asking myself these three questions for the past few years and I've been getting amazing results. Sometimes I use more powerful sledgehammer techniques, but these three questions although they are simple, are quite profound. Feel free to ask these things of yourself and visualize and embody your answers.
What do I want?
How will I feel when I get it?
How can I feel that now?
Ask yourself these three questions and notice the way your life begins to feel better focusing your energy on what you want.
~ Live in Full Voice. Light Up the World.
Sex is like cake. Except when it’s like cobbler.
The other day, a friend asked me via text, Do you think it’s possible to still find someone you really like when you are sleeping with someone else?
I considered a number of snarky potential responses, but I decided to assume that my friend was being earnest and really wanted my opinion on this. It’s actually kind of an honor to have someone ask for my opinion rather than assuming everybody wants to hear my opinion and sending it out into the social ether. E’hem...
So, this was my response:
Me: “It’s funny the way you’re asking, because beliefs are important. You would have to believe that you can in order for it to be true.”
She: mmm. that is very true. thank you. and that is my missing element.
I went on as I’m inclined to do.
Me: “If you are able to expand your beliefs about what is possible you would intuitively know how and who to be.” (This is the part where I’m being all wise and crap as I’m wont to do cuz I’m way totally a personal development professional and such, mmm hmm.)
And then out of nowhere or, you know, out of the place inspiration and metaphor always comes from, this popped out of me.
Me: “You could allow yourself to fully enjoy cake on any particular day and never once decide that you are a cake eater.”
Me: “You can eat cake all you want and still be a cobbler person. Because cobbler is fucking amazing.”
She: OMG. That is an amazing analogy!!!
Me: “But if you are eating cake and choosing not to enjoy it because you’d rather have cobbler, then the cake will probably not sit well in your stomach. And you may find that you’re too ill for cobbler if someone were to offer it to you.”
She: Shit that’s awesome. Yes.
See. You want to text me now. Or maybe you want cake. You’re a cake eater, I can tell. That’s cool. I prefer cobbler.
(Catalyst, Breakthrough Specialist, Baggage Assassin, Quit Smoking Specialist, Idea Consultant, Force of Nature)